The secrets of success
76. When choosing your life
partner, remember that this is the most important decision of your lifetime.
The marriage relationship offers 90% of all your support, happiness and
fulfillment so choose it wisely. Consider qualities such as affection, sense of
humor, intelligence, integrity, maturity, temperament, compatibility and that
indescribable characteristic of chemistry. If these are present, your
relationship stands an excellent chance of great success. Move slowly and let
no one press you into an uncomfortable decision.
77. Never discuss your personal
development activities with anyone. Your strategies for expanding your mind and
spirit are your own. Others might not understand the value of personal-mastery
and, further, will take away your credit when you meet with success by saying
that you relied on techniques. Keep these self-development activities to
yourself.
78. Schedule relaxation time into
your week and be ruthless in protecting it. You would not schedule another
activity into the time planned for an important meeting with the president of
your company or your best client so why would you put off a period to invest in
yourself? We must have time for ourselves to reflect, unwind and recharge our
batteries. These are the renewal activities that allow us to maintain peak
performance and are exceptionally valuable periods.
79. 83% of our sensory input
comes from our eyes. To truly concentrate on something, shut your eyes and you
will remove much distraction.
80. Be the master of your will
but the servant of your conscience.
81. Develop the wonderful habit
of a daily swim. It will promote excellent health, keep you relaxed and
concentrated, lean and trim. Swimming is not stressful on the body, provides a
great workout for the lungs and requires little time to do effectively.
Remember that in a fit body resides a fit mind.
82. People who are doing good
today are ensuring their happiness for tomorrow.
83. The key to successful time
management is doing what you planned to do when you planned to do it. Keep your
mind fully on the task at hand. Only then will you achieve all your goals and
have time for the things that matter most. Although it is imperative to be
flexible (a bow too tightly strung will soon break), following your planned
schedule requires no more than simple discipline.
84. An excellent visualization
technique: if you are worrying about something, picture the words of your worry
on a piece of paper. Now ignite a match to the paper and watch the worry
dissipate into flames. Bruce Lee, the great martial arts master employed this
mental control device regularly.
85. Compartmentalize your worry.
Set aside a certain amount of time to ponder over a problem and map out an
effective plan of attack and your options. Once this is done, have the mental
fortitude not to come back to the problem and go over it again and again. The
human mind is a strange creature - things we want to forget keep coming back
and those things we want to remember are not there when we want them. But the
mind is similar to a muscle and the more you flex it the stronger it will
become. Make it your servant. Feed it only the best nutrition and information.
It will serve you well and perform magic if you believe in it.
86. Peak performers are
physically relaxed and mentally engaged.
87. To be at your performance
peak mentally, your body must be loose physically and relaxed. It is now beyond
dispute that there is a mind-body connection and when the body is supple, free
from tension, the mind is clear, calm and focused as well. This is why yoga is
such a beneficial activity. It keeps the body relaxed so that the mind can
follow. Basic stretching for 15 minutes a day is also an excellent way to
release tension that builds up as a result of our life in this highly complex
and fast moving, but wonderful world. Try having a massage or power lounging in
a Jacuzzi. Relax the body and you relax the mind.
88. Prepare a detailed financial
plan for the next few years and follow it. Seek out financial advice if you
need it. A powerful strategy for financial mastery is also a simple one: save
10% of all you make for long-term growth (take this off the pay cheque before
you have a chance to spend it). If you can invest $200 a month for the next 30
years at an annual return rate of 15%, you will end up with $1.4 million
dollars. Being wise with your money is one of the very best investments to make.
Financial security leads to personal freedom.
89. Readers are leaders. U.S.
President Bill Clinton read more than 300 books during his short time at Oxford
University. Some top performers read a book a day. Seek out knowledge and
information. We have truly entered the age of massive information and those who
are proactive can use this to their advantage. The more you know, the less you
fear.
90. Get into the excellent habit
of reading something positive and inspirational before you go to bed and as soon
as you awake in the morning. You will soon note the benefits as these thoughts
will be supporting you throughout the day.
91. Make it one of your goals to
develop a dynamic, charismatic personality. Such a quality is something each
one of us has the potential to develop but few do. President Kennedy was a
sickly youth but rose above his physical problems to be the most charismatic
and exciting political figure in the history of the United States. Start off
small. Take a Dale Carnegie course on public speaking. Go to the library where
you will find books on the fine art of conversation and personal grooming.
Learn three clean and witty jokes and get in the habit of socializing. You will
have fun and build a lasting network of friends and associates.
92. On the subject of
conversation, a Chinese proverb states as follows: "a single conversation
across the table with a wise man is worth a month's study of books." Seek
out the wise and learn from them. They are just waiting for that small spark of
interest to tell you all that you need to know.
93. Lao-Tzu prized three
essential qualities for a person of greatness: "the first is gentleness;
the second is frugality; the third is humility, which keeps me from putting
myself before others. Be gentle and you can be bold; be frugal and you can be
liberal; avoid putting yourself before others and you can become a leader among
men."
94. "When you cannot make up
your mind which of two evenly balanced courses of action you should take -
choose the bolder," said W. J. Slim. There is no substitute for courage
and though the chance of stubbing your toe increases the more you walk, it is
always better than going nowhere by standing still. Take chances, take smart
risks and you will meet with success beyond your dreams.
95. Become your spouse's number
one supporter, the one who is always there supporting and fueling hopes and
dreams. Develop together and march confidently through the world as an army of
two.
96. Think of three people who can
provide you with inspiration, motivation and support for your goals and
aspirations. Plan to meet with each one of them over the next few weeks. Listen
enthusiastically to them and brainstorm with them. Map out a strategy and take
their wise counsel.
97. Make every one of your days a
true masterpiece. Remember the old saying: "it's not who you think you are
that holds you back but what you think you're not."
98. Just as valuable energy is
wasted by spending time on activities that are of no value, energy can be
wasted on loose thinking. Imagine that your mind has an energy measure of 1000
watts at its disposal. Each time your mind wanders off the project at hand, to
a nagging worry, to all the things to do by the end of the day, 100 watts is
lost. Quite soon the entire energy supply is gone. This is the nature of the
mind. Fail to discipline it and your energy levels will be depleted and your
accomplishments will be minimal. Control it and you will see great things
happening. You will feel more powerful and achieve difficult tasks with ease.
The 19th century philosopher Henri Frederic Amiel summed it up nicely:
"for purposes of action, nothing is more useful than narrowness of thought
combined with energy of will."
99. It has been rightly said that
"you sow an action, you reap a habit. You sow a habit, you reap a
character. You sow a character, you reap a destiny." The essence of a
person is his character - make yours unique, unblemished and strong. Do not say
you will do anything unless you will indeed do it. Speak the truth and measure
your words wisely. Be humble, straightforward and peaceful.
100. Remember the overriding law
of nature: positive overcomes the negative.

